The "Things" We Need

How to Do Something Sexy for Your Body and Enjoy Doing It Over and Over, Again and Again….

2008-09-22T08:11:00.000-07:00

We all "want" healthy bodies. We may not do exactly what we need to do in order to have them, but ultimately we want to be healthy.

What you will find exhilarating is that you make a decision for health by choosing to have sex with your spouse.

The following article will help put health and sex into perspective, not to mention understanding what really contributes to your happiness factor, which tends to be high on every one's list of priorities. .

Sex Does a Body Good
By Dana Demas, Special to LifeScript

Sex is the new potion for good health. It’s good for you, keeps you young and only gets better the more you tango. Kinsey Institute sex researcher and educator Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., extols the benefits of sex.

Most of us already know that life is sweetened by sex. But healthier? Yes! In fact, study after study reports that people who are sexually active get sick less often, heal faster, are more alluring and simply happier. And once you’re in the groove, sex begets more sex. The momentum takes on a life of its own. Last night’s delight makes you want more. After all, your body wakes up to its arousal, and in a loving relationship, you and your partner feel closer than ever.

When we have sex, with our spouse, our bodies release increasing levels of oxytocin. Nicknamed “the hormone that bonds,” oxytocin helps put the body and mind at ease. And it’s partly responsible for the feel-good effects of sex, including more pleasure and less pain. “Sexual excitement and orgasm, for both women and men, increase their threshold for pain,” Herbenick says. “They’re both less sensitive to pain and less likely to experience it.”

In fact, Rutgers University sex researcher Beverly Whipple, Ph.D., has found that during orgasm a woman can tolerate up to 110% more pain than she can normally – a good thing, says Herbenick, because increased pain tolerance protects our bodies during sex and ensures that pleasure is the main event. The downside: some women may notice soreness or even mild tearing from an energetic romp once the pleasurable buzz has faded. But getting physical may be beside the point. Just thinking about sex can be pain relieving, too: In 1999, when researchers at Johns Hopkins University and the University of Wisconsin asked participants to submerge their hands in ice-cold water, they found that participants who were told to think of kissing, flirting or otherwise enjoyable sexual activity with a partner experienced less pain and distress than participants who thought of a neutral situation.

Sexual activity can also lighten the pain of migraine headaches, chronic back pain and even offer relief from PMS symptoms, such as cramps. Saturday night never sounded so good.

The Sexy Side of Beauty

Sex also increases a person’s attractiveness quotient. A study out of Royal Edinburgh Hospital in Edinburgh, Scotland, found that participants thought people who had sex four times a week were 7 to 12 years younger than people having less sex.“Research shows that more sex releases higher levels of oxytocin,” Herbenick says. “And we know that’s good for decreasing stress. So, it makes sense that if you’re less stressed, you’ll look better.” And blood pumping through the body at a post-coital clip brightens our blush, not a bad elixir for dewy skin and rosy cheeks.

.Feeling attractive may also link up with how much sex you have. A 2005 study by Penn State sex researcher Patricia Barthalow Koch, Ph.D., found that women who perceived themselves as less attractive now than they were 10 years ago had less sex and less enjoyable sex than women who still felt attractive.

The Flush of Sexy Exercise

Clearly the mind affects sex. But the seat of sex is physical: the pelvic floor, or sexual function central. That structure, running like a hammock from the pubic bone to the spine, not only gives a woman control over urinary and bowel functions, but also contributes to arousal and the ability to have an orgasm. In fact, it supports all of a woman’s sexual anatomy. Regular sex can help a woman maintain her pelvic floor, important for her health as she ages. “Sexual activity helps keep the tissues moist,” Herbenick says. “And it prevents the vaginal canal from narrowing, which is important for [access during] gynecological exams.

Like working any kind of muscle, working your pelvic floor muscles brings them to life. Vaginal tone and sexual response improves. Arousal builds because of better blood flow, which drives genital sensation and lubrication during sex.
Orgasm ability and quality also improve dramatically, since stronger pelvic floor muscles are primed to contract more powerfully. In addition to regular Kegel exercises – the hold and release of the same muscles you use to keep from urinating – sexual activity is nature’s best way to keep the pelvic floor healthy.

Regular sexual activity also benefits men, reducing their risk of prostate cancer. “We don’t really know why ejaculation is related to a lower risk of prostate cancer, but it is,” Herbenick says. One theory is that with regular ejaculation other toxins or substances in the prostate are picked up by the semen and taken out of the body.”

The Happiness Factor
along with the physical boon, sex lifts our spirits.

In fact, people who have more sex are happier in their relationships and in general. Of course, much of the well-being conferred by regular sex comes compliments of oxytocin, says Herbenick.

“Both men and women release high levels of oxytocin during sexual activity and orgasm. And they release higher levels from vaginal intercourse [than from] masturbation or oral sex,” she says. In other words, the benefits of sex with a partner may be the most potent medicine.The well-being oxytocin makes the hormone seem something of a wonder drug, helping us feel more relaxed and less stressed. It’s also associated with faster wound healing, and a reduction in blood pressure and cortisol, a stress hormone. What’s encouraging – in case your sex life’s slow – is that you can get at least some of the physical and mental benefits of oxytocin even without sex.

“The benefits are not dependent on having an orgasm,” Herbenick says. “It can be just the result of warm touching and massage.” In fact, animal research shows the hormone promotes closeness and even feelings of exclusivity among pairs who mate. And although men and women may be mating in captivity, says Herbenick, we’re more like animals than we know.
The gist is that if you’re on the fence about steaming up your love life, you can add good health, happiness and self-reliance to your list of pros.

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It's No Secret: Men And Women Are Different

2008-09-09T07:51:00.000-07:00

I read Men Are From Mars - Women Are From

Venus...

Thank goodness I did because now I know men

and women are different.

And they are different in just about every way, which may be why couples sometimes run into situations that leave them feeling hurt, frustrated, and wondering if they will ever be able to have a harmonious relationship.

I'm not going to offer a solution to every difference between men and women, but I am going to share something with you on a subject that will either create distance in marriage or union.

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When the sexual relationship between husband and wife becomes stressful, disappointing and or a source of pain, the relationship suffers.

This free report is geared toward men, but is also something women will want to read as well.

It sheds light on what can happen when a man steps back and takes a fresh look at his wife and how he may go about bringing positive change in his relationship with her. Ladies, it may just provide the very validation you need in order to gain the courage to lovingly share your needs with your husband.

Click Here To Read The Free Report

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Is Your Sexual Relationship With Your Spouse Healthy?

2008-08-27T12:35:00.000-07:00

You can determine, if your sex life is exciting, fulfilling, and healthy.

With that said, there are some common signs....start paying attention.

These signs, a few of which are outlined below, often signal a happy and healthy sex life.

Countless studies support having a healthy, and happy, monogamous relationship with your spouse. Since it is in interest of the life and well being of your marriage, your health and longevity take a look at the following quiz to help put it in perspective, is your sexual relationship with your spouse healthy?.

Sign #1 You Have a Healthy Relationship

Couples who have a healthy relationship use communication with each other and often. They are able to let their partners know when something is bothering them. Each partner understands that their relationship involves two fully committed individuals. Couples with happy and healthy sex lives often do not have unrealistic expectations or make excess demands on their partners.

Sign #2 Experimentation in the Bedroom

Experimenting in the bedroom is another sign that you may have a happy and healthy sex life. Of course, this does not mean that you and your partner have to become adult movie stars, but experimentation can improve your sex life significantly. It is also important to remember that experimentation comes in a number of different formats. It can be something as simple as having sex at a different time of the day, in a different part of the house, or extended foreplay sessions. Fantasies and fetishes are fun and okay, but only if both parties agree to them. Be sure to consult with your partner before going overboard.

Sign #3 Sex is Given Freely

In many relationships, especially long-term relationships, sex can be seen as a chore.

This is not how it should be. Sex should be something that you and your partner want, not a responsibility that needs to be fulfilled. If you and your partner are open to both spontaneously engaging in the act, you may have a happy and healthy sex life. When you have sex because you want to, as opposed to because it is your job, maximum benefit and pleasure is achieved.

Sign #4 Sex Becomes a Regular Part of the Relationship

It is no secret that having an active sexual relationship can be difficult.

With raising families, working, and other common duties, sex can often take a back seat.

Another sign that you may have a happy and healthy sex life is if you don`t let your day to day responsibilities and duties get in the way of having sex. Regardless of how busy you are, if you still find time to have sex with your partner, you have a healthy sex life. Just be sure to remember that sex does not have to be scheduled. In fact, spontaneous sex can do wonders for a relationship.

Sign #5 Sex is more than Just an Act

Contrary to what most people believe, sex is more than just having intercourse. An important component of having a happy and healthy sex life is that of engaging in foreplay. Foreplay can be something as simple as holding hands or giving a relaxing massage. Love notes, kind gestures, and doing something that your partner may not expect on a daily basis are all easy ways to keep your partner interested in you, both emotionally and physically. You have a healthy and happy sex life when the romance continues on long past intercourse has come to an end.

Is Your Sexual Relationship With Your Spouse Healthy?

If you have been left feeling as though your relationship is lacking you may want to click here to take a look at how you may enhance it.

If a number of the above mentioned signs describes your relationship with your significant other, there is a good chance your relationship is healthy. Even if you have a happy and healthy sex life now, it is important to remember that things may change. Remember that as time passes, it may be easier to let sex impact your relationship negatively. Be sure to always keep an open line of communication with your partner, especially where sex and their needs are concerned.

Satisfying sex is a necessary part of a good marriage, are you having satisfying sex with your partner?

2008-08-21T09:18:00.000-07:00

The "NEED" for sexual pleasure hasn't been lost in a heap underneath the daily demands couples experience.

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As a matter of fact countless doctors and studies have indicated just how important fulfilling sexual pleasure is. Okay, I'm not talking about promiscuous, multi-partner sex, but monogamous, life-long partner sex. Psychologist Dr. Gail Saltz "It's a biological, evolutionary need," Dr. Saltz says. "In order to have that really intimate connection, that incredible trust and really have your needs met, [sex] is something that needs to happen in your relationship."

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Having quality, frequent sex can be really difficult with the demands and stress that tag along daily as we navigate our way through life. Here's the good news: You can reduce stress, boost your immune system and live longer? Dr. Hilda Hutcherson says all it takes is GREAT SEX!

I learned about Dr. Oz one day while channel surfing and saw him on Opra. The following question on a health quiz, offered to the audience, provided an answer to the age-old debacle many couples face.....How often should you have sex?

The Answer: 200 times a year or more

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Dr. Oz shares with the open mouthed audience upon hearing the answer........ If you have more than 200 orgasms a year, you can reduce your physiologic age by six years. The study conducted to support this finding followed couples whom were enjoying the many health benefits of a long term, healthy relationship.

Dr. Oz, well known from his appearances on the Opra show, talks to Dr. Hutcherson, an ob-gyn at Columbia University when she shared the following. There are countless health benefits to satisfying sex, Dr. Hutcherson says. For starters, it's an aerobic exercise that strengthens your heart. But make sure the "getting" is good—Dr. Hutcherson says women who have unsatisfying sex may actually increase their risk of heart disease!

Despite the many health benefits of satisfying sex, Dr. Hilda says at least 43 percent of women and 33 percent of men are not happy with their sex lives. She says partners need to communicate openly and honestly—especially women.

That brings us to the age-old dilemma of premature ejaculation?

That's a touchy subject, but one that must be approached when sex becomes frustrating and a strain on a relationship due to PE. Many men unfortunately have experienced premature ejaculation and the ways in which it causes disappointment with their partner.

The additional problem with the "problem" is that many couples are uninformed and that leads to issues which, let's face it, cause more stress.....and, that brings us full circle.

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And, We're Back To Stress.

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Men want to please their partner, and they want to experience the pleasure of knowing they can perform to mutual satisfaction without the anxiety of being a disappointment. Performance anxiety makes a slave of many men leaving them with lingering questions and uncertainty.

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Questions Like...
How do I maintain my erection for longer periods with only moderate stimulation
How do I increase the sensitivity of my penis but slow the release time
How to Wire Your Unconscious Mind For Peak Sexual Performance.

Will keeping your thoughts on something other than your partner prolong your chances of ejaculation?
Should You Use Alcohol To Control Your Premature Ejaculation
What Sexual Positions Are Best For Prolonging Ejaculation and Slowing Down Orgasm?
How to prolong ejaculation without reducing your own sexual pleasure
How to Make Sure Your Woman Orgasms Before You Do
How To Know when you are close to orgasm and where is the point of no return
Are there Exercises to Do that Improve Your Erection and Staying Power How To Have Stronger Orgasms
What is considered "premature" ejaculation... the answer may surprise you!
What Kind of Foods and Supplements can you take to improve your sexual stamina
How can you improve ejaculatory control
What foods can be eaten before sex that can improve a mans sexual performance?

What exercises can be done prior to sexual intercourse that can improve the quality of sex
How To Maintain a Strong Erection
Is it dangerous to have an erection for too long
Does masturbation contribute to premature ejaculation? (the answer might surprise you)
Can a bad diet inhibit sexual performance
Why does P.E Occur,

and How Can You Stop It From Ruining Your Sex Life Ever AGAIN ?

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THERE ARE ANSWERS....... To Those Questions As Well As Many Others

You Can Have Longer And More Explosive Extended Orgasms and Rock Your World Together! Gentlemen, You Can Recover Quickly after Ejaculating or just Eliminate The Need To Recover At All -

You can be ready time and time again! As Well As......

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